"I have not ceased being fearful, but I have
ceased to let fear control me." -- Erica Jong
"Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a
single courageous step would carry us clear
through them." -- Brendan Francis
"Your fears are not walls, but hurdles. Courage
is not the absence of fear, but the conquering
of it." -- Dan Millman
"… every choice is a choice between love and
fear, but we can't begin to access our love
until we acknowledge our fear." -- Paul Ferrini
"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to
try new things. The saddest summary of a life
contains three descriptions: could have, might
have, and should have." -- Louis E. Boone
"The key to success is for you to make a habit
throughout your life of doing the things you
fear." -- Brian Tracy
"We can't fear the past. Fear is a future thing.
And since the future's all in our heads, fear
must be a head thing." -- Tom Payne |
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"How do we hold the fear? From a position of
choice, energy and action or from a position
of helplessness, depression and paralysis?"
-- Susan Jeffers
When we explore what blocks us from moving
ahead in life, we find fear. Fear of the
unknown, fear of failure, fear of success,
fear of loss…. For a human being, fear is
simply a fact of life.
How do we work with fear? Take these three
steps:
1. Admit you're afraid. We need to allow
ourselves to feel our fear. We can't move
through fear if we are afraid to experience
it. And there's a blessing here: when we
permit ourselves to truly feel our fear, the
fear usually eases, all on its own. It's not
nearly so frightening!
2. Consciously shift your experience. For
example, stop focusing on what you don't
want - on what you're afraid of - and begin
to focus on what you do want. Replace your
images of disaster with visions of success
on the TV screen in your mind. And don't
allow your thinking to change channels!
3. Take action. Simply start where you are
and take a step or two that will move you to
a new vantage point.
It helps to understand that fear is usually
a projection into the future. We typically
fear what MIGHT happen rather than what is
happening now.
Susan Jeffers notes that 90% of what we fear
usually does not materialize. To help us
believe in our success, she recommends this
as a war cry: "I'll handle it!"
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