The 8 most important people in your life

A key part of our life’s journey or a slice of our life is the important characters that participate in it. See how the Muppets in 5 minutes explore the 8 key characters. See Kermit the frog take on the 8 roles of Hero, Mentor and other key roles. Who are the main characters in your life?

Thanks for downloading your memoir cheat sheet and for many of you purchasing our “Writing Your Hero Journey” e-book.

Our first major event.

Once July holidays are completed we will be announcing our first major event – writing a short inspiring, meaningful memoir by Christmas. As a group, Diane will guide us through strategies and steps to write your journey OR help you interview and write someone else’s memoir (this is different and shorter than an autobiography). If you are interested send me a note and I will make sure you are the first to know.

You may use your memoir as a soul story, healing story, your message to others, or share a significant theme in your life.

I plan to complete my Mom’s memoir that will give her more meaning and understanding to her life.

Just think of it – Mini Meaningful Memoirs in everyone’s stocking for Christmas. More coming soon.

Now check out Kermit being the 8 most common characters in your hero journey.

 

And think about who and what you would like to see in yours or your parent’s memoir.

John (and Diane)

Hero Story: “Poised”

Mother’s Day

cheetaCardYou see? We are cheetahs Mommy.
I’m the baby cheetah, and you are the Mommy cheetah

See you are licking my head
And we are surrounded by trees

I made this card for you
<<Bonne fete de Mère
Je t’aime>>

<hug>

<thank you sweetie>

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The mama cheetah licks her cub’s head idly as she basks in the African sun. Golden and sleek, she licks and grooms his tear-shaped spots. This one will live, she thinks, hopes, demands as she roughly tucks him into her hide, milk dripping into his sucking mouth, breathing and sniffing into the warm morning sun.

There it is. Prey. Do you sense it little one? The smell of it. The sweet intoxication of it? It’s coming toward us, and already I am shifting from mother to hunter. Do you feel me moving away from you little one? Do you smell what I smell? Can you feel me breathing faster, the blood of a hunter now rushing through me?

I am alert now. Every nerve taut, every muscle tight and ready, as I roughly release my cub and stand. I am ready to pounce. I want to pounce. I want the kill and the feast. Already I can taste the blood and the meat, and the urge to move is almost overwhelming.

Almost.

Because I hear a shuffling, a mewing of protest from my cub, the one I want to feed and hunt for, but also the one I realize I will have to leave alone. Can I hunt and come back quickly? I am blood thirsty and intoxicated by the scent of my prey, but for the first time in my life, I am afraid. My cub, the one I desperately want to live. What will happen when he is alone? Can I chase and fight and kill and come back before harm comes to him?

So I stand. Poised. Milk dripping from me onto the dry ground. Blood and fear and lust for food and feast pouring through me.

I stand on the threshold of either nothing or something, caught between mother and hunter, doing nothing but breathing.

*****

This short story was written as a process in our Hero Story group program, were we are bringing together a heart-centred group of people who are interested in exploring their life as a hero’s journey, and using writing as a transformational tool. We write, share and explore what we call ‘soul stories’ – adventures and moments that have meaning, that describe a turning point, conflict or meaningful event in our lives, often in mythological or symbolic form.

In the story above, I wanted to capture the intensity of the yearning and yet also the indecision. In the classic “Hero’s Journey’ story structure, it would be a ‘crossing the threshold’ type story. Something is always given up when you go forth .. is she ready? Is the cub some sort of threshold guardian … holding her back from her soul’s calling as hunter and provider, or is her actual soul journey to stay with the cub?

To join us, and learn more about writing your life stories, or using writing as a transformational tool, click here.

… Diane

21 ways to find great hero story plots.

Creating a short hero story is a great way to move through challenges and inner struggles to a turning point of change and then integrating and anchoring that change so it consciously becomes part of the new you.

Allow your challenges, successes, conflicts, urges, turning points, support of mentors, etc. to become crystal clear. Apply the hero story process so you attain a new level of learning and integration towards wholeness. Leave no rock unturned, otherwise it slides into our unconscious mind to come up another time demanding a new hero story for healing.

Below are 21 ways to identify story lines that could use some light, learning and anchoring into your psyche.
Create a table of challenges, calls to action, mentors, the many struggles and trials, turning points, the prizes and the sharing to your tribe. As you are triggered by one of the above items – write it down and then build your story around it.

Allow some of the ideas below to trigger hero stories within you.

1. Weaknesses – If you do not have an inventory of life challenges and weaknesses then take an online character or style quiz like Myer Briggs or the 4 quadrants quizzes or take the 4 personality quizzes at Higher Awareness. Do any hero stories come to mind to turn one of your weaknesses into a strength?

2. Turning points – Make a list of the best learnings, insights, miracles, books, courses, etc. that impacted your life. Then reflect on any negative that you turned around into a new way of doing life. Any new learning is worthy of a hero story so you anchor it even deeper.

3. Mentors – Who were/are important people in your life? How did they support you? How did they help you change? What was your take-away from these people’s support? Is there a hero story unfolding in your mind?

4. Ego-Soul – Most of our major inner conflicts are the subtle prompting of our soul against the resistance and controlling, self-centred nature of our ego. This is where hero stories shine as you dive into and humble the sub-personalities of the ego so it lets through the authenticity and aspirations of the soul.

5. Left/right brain or Male/Female parts – Most of us are polarized one way or the other. Part of our life journey is to accentuate and be confident with the yin or yang parts AND/OR balance the 2 parts. Both are different journeys to explore.

6. Rites of Passage – A great read is “The Roaring of the Sacred River” by Steven Foster and Meredith Little. They discuss how many aboriginals celebrate various rights of passage. These are such important events in our lives that we need to celebrate and ritualize them so they are strongly anchored and completed in our psyche. It is very worth while writing your hero story around puberty, leaving home, marriage, first child, job changes, completing school, divorce, bankruptcy, retirement, dying etc. Create definite distinctions form before and after the transition.

7. Quests – If you want to take an existing transition or be open to a new hero story, take your rites of passage to anew level by having a quest. Allow 3 days of loneliness, fasting, or roughing it in nature in a self retreat. These activities really take one into the depths of the inner psyche and into old patterning. The language of your hero story reaches a new level of imagination and heart felt survival emotions.

8. A parent – You have chosen your parents for a reason. Do you now what it is? Have you completed your learning regarding these 2 most influential people in your young, vulnerable, impressionable time of your life? If you can’t think of a lesson to learn, Ram Dass says. ‘Go live with parents or a siblings for a week and watch your buttons get pushed.’ Try it and list your new hero story trials.

9. People conflicts – Who pushes your buttons the most? Who do you dislike or have had an ongoing conflict with? If you were to believe that these outer conflicts are just projections and caused by some inner perspectives or programming, how can they be corrected? Hero stories are great at resoling the conflicts and rewriting forgiveness and love back into your past.

10. Beliefs list – Too often the smallest limiting beliefs we learned from our parents and keep rehearsing in our minds, affects our success and character. Review this list of common limiting beliefs and see what resonates with you. Eg. “Money does not grow on trees” or “no pain – no gain”. These are great opportunities for short FUN hero stories to disarm their unconscious power.

11. Stepping stones – Put your life on a few pages. For each year since you were born make a list of where you lived, best friends, your place of work and schooling, friends, memorable events. Look for cycles and repeating events. I am sure lots of hero stories can arise.

12. Feeling finder– A real hero story has multiple, progressive battles of wins and losses that give the journey more empathy and depth. Explore these 50 degrees or progressions of love, wisdom and power. As you scan each list, mark the words that resonate with you or that you have had experience with.

13. Enneagram – At lest 60% of your hero journey is ideally is in the trials and battles as you gain great experience of what works and does not work. As you attack your challenges from all angles you integrate more layers within you. If you want a great list of progressive battles laid out for you, explore “Understanding the Enneagram” book. Identify your personality type and they have 10 levels of health for that type plus another type you integrate to when you are very positive and another type you disintegrate to when you are challenged or unconsciously reacting. That’s up to 20 trials and leanings and inner battles that you may relate to AND the Enneagram has a wing (next to your main type that is a sub personality and it again has its 10 levels of health and levels of disintegration and integration. Great learning opportunities here.

14. Astrology – If you know astrology there are many ways to stimulate stories in your fixed signs and in your transitions that have different signs and houses moving through each other.

15. Rays – I have gotten the most out of the 7 Rays. It identifies the style or character of your physical body, your emotions, your thinking, your personality and your soul. Now we have the trials and skirmishes as these 5 character parts work towards harmony – multiple life times of hero stories. This material lists multiple differences between our personality (ego) and soul.

16. Grooming – Let’s work from a positive perspective. This is one of my favourite questions – ‘What are you being groomed for this life time? What are your life experiences leading you towards? What is your contribution, service, unique expression, passion? What has your education, jobs, encounters, challenges, been grooming you for? Look at your past and now you can write a hero story about your future and anchor it deeply. Yes – you can write your own future.

17. Life Lesson – This is an ultimate, big learning, big growth hero journey – more than a hero story. We are each here to work on a significant life lesson and turn it into a significant learning. Get multiple hero stories under your belt before you tackle this one.

18. Daily pet peeves, tensions, urges and learnings – As you deepen your knowledge and naturalness in using the hero story for healing and empowering, you can apply it in real time as daily conflicts, tensions and pet peeves occur and as your urges, opportunities, callings knock at your door and as you learn a lesson – you now have many situations to create memorable stories. VERY IMPORTANT – as these story opportunities arise in real time – ONLY THEN is the cause and cure in our psyche, so it is important to find time that day to mentally, if not on paper go through your hero process and attain a new level of learning and anchor it as a celebration. Create a short headline so your daily events are more memorable.

19. Best book or movie – If you have seen Star Wars 21 times, you have an excellent metaphor to guide and mentor your life. What is your most watched movie or most read book. How does your life compare to it? Write your journey along that line with you as the hero.

20. Meditations and intuition – Relax. Breath. Center and Ground yourself. Connect to the highest aspect of yourself. Basque in the beauty and perfection. And ASK any question you may have and listen. Let your higher self walk you through your hero journey.

21. 7 year segments – Saturn returns – The 7 year growth cycles are quite popular -first 7 years we grow physically, then the next 7 to 14, emotionally, and then the next 7 to 21 mentally (your point of highest ego) and then the next 7 for personality integration, etc. As we shift these paradigms in growth the friction created can be integrated in your hero stories. Saturn cycles of 28 years also have a strong bearing on human development.

22. Conflict of 2 archetypes. Review the 12 archetypes in the Write Your Hero Story e-book, pick your 2 predominant archetypes. Notice the differences between them and create a few small skirmishes or even a big battle as they fight for dominance and harmony.

23. Please add to this list – What ideas do you have for more triggers for hero stories? We would love to hear from you.

A final tip – titling is key, so you can instantly recall your newly learned level of being. Put all your headline titles together and you have a story book or newspaper of your life.

Archetypes & Enemies … Getting to the Essence of a Hero Story

In our recent email for our Hero’s group mentoring program, we asked our group to consider:

What is the essence of this story?

Wow. Pretty deep question. We don’t want to know just what happened to whom, when and where, but the actual essence of the story!

It seems almost presumptuous, too much too soon. “I just want to tell a short story!” …  our writing self protests.

But a hero story is more than just writing short stories – it’s writing short stories that mean something.

And one thing I found helpful when looking at the meaning of my story is to look at the characters in the story at a deeper level. What archetypal character pattern is this person living out? Are they a friend or an enemy?

What pattern am I living out? This group, and website are based on the ideas that stories you tell about your life, are soul stories, myth stories that ultimately tell and reveal deeper patterns.

As I was writing a story from my life using the tool “Hero’s Journey ExcaliburSentence Stubs” from our book, I realized that the outward quest (I was building a business venture with a friend) was not at all about the money or the business success. I was seeking something much deeper, I think a sense of power and security. I was trying to take the Sword out of the Stone, before I was ready to assume the Kingdom, and Excalibur will only yield to someone who is the rightful King, who has gone through the trials.

So, it left me wondering … am I ready to be the King/Queen? To assume the power and build a successful business, in a way that is more soulful, more me?

Who were my enemies? yes, there were people who did wrong to me, but who really was I fighting all along?

Ahh … writing my memoirs as a hero’s journey means I have to look at the essence, the archetypes and enemies .. and I start to see my life in deeper ways.

Excalibur … are you ready to yield?

Am I ready, not just to seize the outward trappings/symbols of power, but the actual responsibilities of Kingship, caring for the people?

My Life … at a Glance? The Power of a Good List.

Stepping_stones_3Want to know how to write a memoir?

In our soon-to-be published book on Writing a Hero Story, we provide a “Stepping Stones” template, which is essentially a tool to help you organize your life at a glance, by just listing things, like the date, how old you were, major events, who your friends were- you know, the basics.

This is how you start to write a memoir – with listing. Yup, pretty boring for us creative types right? We don’t want to list, we want to expound upon, describe, search for hidden gem and write a heartfelt memoir or hero story right away!

But that’s not always the way to start. The way to start is to take a deep breath and start to explore your life. What happened to you? when? who was with you? where were you?

Just list. You’ll be amazed at what happens.

Here’s a list of what happened to me when I did the Stepping Stones exercise:

1. I started to see patterns.

2. I started to notice myself judging my life, sometimes not too nicely.

3. I started to feel a little sad at the losses, not just deaths (although there’s been a few), but of friends I’ve lost touch with, places I’ve let go of.

4. I started to wish I had done more travelling, and now I’m planning to.

5. I started to see even deeper, that I have many hero stories to tell, that I am on an adventure.

Want to know what to write a memoir about? Start with the stepping stones of your life. Start making a list.

Your creative side will love you for it.

(eventually).

… Diane

 

 

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